Moms: Stay-at-Home vs Working
September 19, 2014

Some mom choose to stay at home and adopt the homemaker role. Others prefer to work outside home. When choosing between staying at home and working outside, moms tend to evaluate what’s best for their families. There can be both undesirable and constructive effects of working mothers on their children. While working moms can teach their children some precious life skills, they can also make the child feel mistreated at times.

Stay-at-Home Moms

Some people have been questioning stay-at-home mothers as what they do at home all day. I know they do free work, often unappreciated work, which starts the moment they wake up, and doesn't even end when they go to sleep. They work on holidays and nighttime, with no end to their day. I know their rewards are happy but few.

Their care is always divided, often distracted from a minute to minute basis, and they cannot ever count on completing a task in the one go. The challenges they deal with daily are usually with no backup. The toddler tantrums, the food battles, the food on the floor, the pastels on the wall, the baby that never seems to stop crying and the sibling rivalry. The work seems continuous - they shop for food, prepare it, cook it, attempt to feed it to their children, clean it off the floor, wash the dishes, and repeat it every four hours.

They want to spend 1 hour for themselves to eat their lunch in peace, or about having an afternoon nap. Sometimes they feel envious of their friends who are going to work.

They are often misjudged by so many who do not appreciate the complications of caring for small children on their own, all day. They also miss their financial independence.Many people do not understand that they work - they simply work, an unpaid job at home.

We should admire their infinite tolerance, their capacity to face each day cheerfully and bring joy into their children's lives even when they wear them down. We should respect their dedication to being a continuous presence in their children's lives even if it isn't always easy and they work without expecting any reward - no promotions, no fame, no salary. They just want their children to feel important and loved.


Working Moms

They are sometimes judged by others for leaving their children in the care of others to work. Some people hint at that they don't love their children as much as stay-at-home moms, and that it's best for children to be at home with their moms. Working moms love their children just as much as any other mother. Going back to work is not an easy decision. It has always been one of the most important decisions of their lives. They have thought about this even while they were studying.

Whenever they get a job offer, they judge as will it suit their family.They wake up an hour before everyone else does, just so they can get some work done or some quiet time. They attend meetings after being up all night with their toddler. They come home, cook dinner, bath children and take studies. They pay the bills, do the grocery shopping, the laundry,the dishes, just like every other mother does.

They feel guilty about having not more time with children and so they sacrifice their leisure time.They can't bring for themselves to take a day off when their children are at daycare. 

They only leave your children in a place where they are confident that they are loved and well looked after. They spend many days caring for children at home when they are sick, and sacrifice their pay. They secretly enjoy these days, and feel happy in being able to be with their children. They feel guilty about not being there all the time. But they setting a wonderful example to their children. They are showing them that a woman can have a job and still be a loving mother. 

A working mom with some sense of satisfaction can serve as a good role model for her kids. Children can get encouraged to pursue their dreams and desire. Moms who efficiently manage work and family can instill good work principle into their kids. With both parents working, each family member has to play a more active role. Raising independent children prepares them for the real world and instructs in them sense of responsibility. Working moms spend quality time with their kids to pay for the amount of time they do not spend together. Kids also look forward to spending time with their parents. They do not take their mother’s attention for granted. The monetary benefits that come with having both parents work, such as going to good schools and pursuing extra-curricular interests can teach a sense of security in kids. Poor-quality day care services can hamper a child’s emotional and social development. Moms might feel over-burdened and weary of trying to balance work and family. If moms bring their frustration home, children could develop a negative attitude. They could notice her work as a source of sorrow for their family.

Moms, in spite of having their kid’s best interests at heart, might fail to provide their kids a safe emotional outlet. They might not be keen to hear their kids’ issues after a hectic day at work. Kids in such cases could choice to finding a channel elsewhere or simply feel that their parents are not interested in their lives. Difficulties can arise between parents over the mother’s employment. Such parental conflict can adversely affect children. It could damage their self-esteem and make them insecure.

A stay at home mom who is unhappy with her life cannot be a positive influence in her kids’ lives. Children of a stay-at-home mom might get used to their mom’s attention round the clock and fail to recognize her efforts.On the other hand, many mothers would find contentment in staying at home with their kids. 

The most important reasons of a child’s development and well-being are the mom’s sense of fulfillment and quality of time spent together. It is the quality of child-rearing that counts and builds a child’s life.